How to Face Fears and Stay Bright No Matter the Outcome of the US Election Day
Today is the US election day. Regardless of the outcome, will you be like this or this?
What future will you create?
What a perfect opportunity to practice being bright and choosing light over being anxious.
It’s easy to be bright when all is well in the world.
But how do you be bright when you feel stressed or weighed down by what’s happening in the world?
One way is simply to not watch the news. Turn all devices off. Go be with your family, spend time in nature, or meditate alone.
However, shutting things out entirely may not address an essential skill to learn given humans, well, must interact with other humans one way or another.
It misses the opportunity to build up your ability or muscle to be with the hard things in life powerfully–to surf in the tsunami of life.
It’s easy to be bright when all is well in the world.
But how do you be bright when you feel stressed or weighed down by what’s happening in the world?
One way is simply to not watch the news. Turn all devices off. Go be with your family, spend time in nature, or meditate alone.
However, shutting things out entirely may not address an essential skill to learn given humans, well, must interact with other humans one way or another.
It misses the opportunity to build up your ability or muscle to be with the hard things in life powerfully–to surf in the tsunami of life.
What if you could be your greatest hero and face the fear head-on?
And yes, even love the fear?
Often, our fear comes in the form of a friend or loved one with opposing views or beliefs.
While one method is simply to avoid triggering or taboo conversations to maintain the peace, what if you could use it as an opportunity? What a superpower that could be!
Consider that
1) every human share the experience of being human
2) we all live on our precious planet earth, and
3) we live in a world with many diverse beliefs and behaviors–allowing, facing, and embracing fear is an essential skill in today’s world.
How else will we learn?
Here’s a simple exercise to help you stay grounded when anxious, stressed, or fearful of another with seemingly opposing values.
Often, our fear comes in the form of a friend or loved one with opposing views or beliefs.
While one method is simply to avoid triggering or taboo conversations to maintain the peace, what if you could use it as an opportunity? What a superpower that could be!
Consider that
1) every human share the experience of being human
2) we all live on our precious planet earth, and
3) we live in a world with many diverse beliefs and behaviors–allowing, facing, and embracing fear is an essential skill in today’s world.
How else will we learn?
Here’s a simple exercise to help you stay grounded when anxious, stressed, or fearful of another with seemingly opposing values.
Staying Grounded when Stressed or Fearful
1. Move your body. Do a soul-nourishing movement of your body, yoga, or workout to clear out and purify any stagnant or toxic energy that might be stuck inside.
2. Close your eyes and get into a sitting posture. Take a few deep breaths in and out.
3. Now imagine a bright sun above you pouring down energy and light on you, filling up your whole body.
4. When you charged up energetically, notice who comes up in your imagination. If they are someone that triggers you, picture that person or thing you “hate” you “can’t stand” in front of you neutrally.
5. Now smile and breathe allowing them there. This is the first step of allowing and accepting the fear the way it is and the way it’s not.
**IF YOU MAKE IT THIS FAR THAT’S GREAT!!**
If you feel you have more energy to give continue on; otherwise, rest and begin again the next day to continue building that muscle.
6. Imagine or feel energy pouring into them and send them love and light. Notice how your body, heart, and/or mind feels. Often they will open up and you will feel lighter.
Bonus: Once you’ve mastered this exercise by doing it at least 5x without getting more upset by the end, you can actually attempt to have a loving dialogue with someone of the opposing view. Or not–it’s most important to work with your own fears first.
If you do choose to have an actual dialogue, I’m not going to lie–it can be highly triggering having done it many times myself for the character development of unconditional love.
However, for me, once I energetically recovered from the initial conversations…I was proud and had more courage to start another conversation.
I’m always surprised in the end, how we actually share a lot more in common than I realized.
When they don’t become “the other” and dehumanized, I become the fear itself. When I’m able to dismantle the fear, I’m left in a deeper inquiry of what really matters in life and where will I focus?
What will you choose today? And every moment?
To be in fear and contracted or in love and expanded?
Your body won’t lie. Just put your hands on your belly or chest, and despite what your mind may be rattling off, if you have deep breaths–you are grounded.
Now is the time to practice this skill of allowing and accepting fear–to embrace the fear.
Regardless of what happens in the world, you’ll be equipped with an essential 21st Century skill, unconditional love.
THAT is a superpower worth cultivating for years to come!
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Anna S. Choi helps growing, six-figure earning, overachieving, conscious business leaders–who are exhausted meeting the demands of their day–prevent burnout as they scale their impact. They want to build habits for staying happy, energized, and focused to perform at their optimum given the demands, complexities, and uncontrollable environments that suck up their energy. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com.
If you are on a path of making a better version of yourself, you can also read other blog posts that I have published HERE. Or you can contact me, and I will be glad to talk to you and discuss how we can improve your situation.
3 Assets Business Leaders Need Today: Lessons Learned from Homeschooling for Business
Business leaders have many challenges right now, including dealing with uncertainty, keeping and growing their businesses, keeping up with sales, and retaining jobs. The global pandemic pushed many companies to their limits and inevitably changed business dynamics–creating much disruption in our personal and business lives.
The continued safety measures made remote working and remote learning the new normal. But now more than ever, we have so much uncertainty and stress to deal with.
Parents are trying to raise and homeschool their children while working a full-time job and taking care of their households. I am not an exception—I have a nine years old, and we started school in the last couple of weeks. That’s how I found so many parallels between being a homeschool parent and teacher while running a full-time business. Here are the three critical assets that I think any business leaders should adapt:
The continued safety measures made remote working and remote learning the new normal. But now more than ever, we have so much uncertainty and stress to deal with.
Parents are trying to raise and homeschool their children while working a full-time job and taking care of their households. I am not an exception—I have a nine years old, and we started school in the last couple of weeks. That’s how I found so many parallels between being a homeschool parent and teacher while running a full-time business. Here are the three critical assets that I think any business leaders should adapt:
- Being agile
- Unlearning
- Storytelling
1) Being Agile
Agility means being flexible and adaptable. In the beginning of any new role in your business or personal life, you might not know what to do. The same applies to the pandemic. Once it started, no one knew what to do! This leveled the playing field whether you were a multi-million dollar business, a startup, or anything in between.
On top of that, with constantly changing variables, you cannot make assumptions when planning ahead. As frustrating as that may be, that’s where you have an opportunity to transform by approaching your business with a beginner’s mind. You are free to innovate rather than cling to past based approaches that no longer work in today’s business environment.
Consider the economic impact of the pandemic has already been made. It’s not that it’s coming, the impact is simply unfolding from what’s already happened. In other words, the next billion dollar companies have already taken off in this climate. We can accept the current reality and catch up or hope the past ways of doing business can return.
You can focus your thinking with the attitude of “what can I create from here?” “What is the opportunity I can take advantage of in this current reality and where we are now headed?”
Let’s take homeschool as an example. Our son was in public school, then he went to private, and now he’s homeschooling. When the pandemic hit, we were forced to homeschool, requiring us to be constantly agile with the changing circumstances.
With both of us remote working at home, there were times we all three needed to be on zoom. To accommodate sound barriers, at one point my husband in the bathroom for a conference call or on the balcony outside. We became agile with creating innovative working environments, by being flexible with our new schedules, creating new responsibilities in managing the house.
Every few days, we’d reflect on what was working or not. We’d be flexible on changing the daily rhythm of our schedule, then adapt from there. We couldn’t plan too far in advance without having tested what worked and iterating from there.
How do you stay agile while also planning ahead?
On top of that, with constantly changing variables, you cannot make assumptions when planning ahead. As frustrating as that may be, that’s where you have an opportunity to transform by approaching your business with a beginner’s mind. You are free to innovate rather than cling to past based approaches that no longer work in today’s business environment.
Consider the economic impact of the pandemic has already been made. It’s not that it’s coming, the impact is simply unfolding from what’s already happened. In other words, the next billion dollar companies have already taken off in this climate. We can accept the current reality and catch up or hope the past ways of doing business can return.
You can focus your thinking with the attitude of “what can I create from here?” “What is the opportunity I can take advantage of in this current reality and where we are now headed?”
Let’s take homeschool as an example. Our son was in public school, then he went to private, and now he’s homeschooling. When the pandemic hit, we were forced to homeschool, requiring us to be constantly agile with the changing circumstances.
With both of us remote working at home, there were times we all three needed to be on zoom. To accommodate sound barriers, at one point my husband in the bathroom for a conference call or on the balcony outside. We became agile with creating innovative working environments, by being flexible with our new schedules, creating new responsibilities in managing the house.
Every few days, we’d reflect on what was working or not. We’d be flexible on changing the daily rhythm of our schedule, then adapt from there. We couldn’t plan too far in advance without having tested what worked and iterating from there.
How do you stay agile while also planning ahead?
The Importance of Planning
In business, most of the clients I work with don’t have quarterly plans or business plans. Actually, they don’t have ANY plans. They are like, “let’s see what will happen” attitude. But a plan is your guide, your direction, your map. It’s a must-have for ANY business. If you don’t know where you are going, then even the smallest obstacle can result in a major disaster for you and your business.
Think of time as a spectrum. In the beginning, it is “let’s see what sticks.” The experimentation phase (that we all faced at the beginning of pandemics, within our businesses, our lives, and in homeschooling) has to happen. Then you start to see patterns settle. The variables begin to get smaller. With fewer variables, you can now start to plan further out.
Still, your planning should be adapted to the new reality and should be different from what was done pre-pandemic. You have to choose to plan and commit to that plan in a very rough time-frame and then adapt from there.
There is a constant battle of how much planning is too much, and you have to find that balance for yourself. The fastest way to find balance is by experimenting. Instead of sitting and thinking, “Is this too much?” “Is this too little?” –just do it! Just start planning, and as you go, you can correct your actions accordingly.
Companies with an agile culture can more easily embrace and adapt to change, can turn uncertainty into opportunity, and grow while other businesses fail. At its core, being agile is all about expecting and managing change. Change is inevitable, and being agile is a method for flowing with change, rather than resisting it.
Think of time as a spectrum. In the beginning, it is “let’s see what sticks.” The experimentation phase (that we all faced at the beginning of pandemics, within our businesses, our lives, and in homeschooling) has to happen. Then you start to see patterns settle. The variables begin to get smaller. With fewer variables, you can now start to plan further out.
Still, your planning should be adapted to the new reality and should be different from what was done pre-pandemic. You have to choose to plan and commit to that plan in a very rough time-frame and then adapt from there.
There is a constant battle of how much planning is too much, and you have to find that balance for yourself. The fastest way to find balance is by experimenting. Instead of sitting and thinking, “Is this too much?” “Is this too little?” –just do it! Just start planning, and as you go, you can correct your actions accordingly.
Companies with an agile culture can more easily embrace and adapt to change, can turn uncertainty into opportunity, and grow while other businesses fail. At its core, being agile is all about expecting and managing change. Change is inevitable, and being agile is a method for flowing with change, rather than resisting it.
2. Unlearning
The number two key asset that a business leader needs today is unlearning.
In home schooling, there are many unspoken rules like no school on weekends, a 5-7 hour school day, sitting down and working on memorizing knowledge you may or may not use later on, and so on.
The same thing applies to business. Unspoken norms are to work 40 hours a week, to sit down all day (if you have that type of business), work 8 hours in a row with just a lunch break, etc.
You must unlearn these norms to create what actually works. Notice when you act from what you should do versus what is doing right for you.
So, as far as unlearning, simply notice your patterns of thinking that restrict you. Now, is the perfect time in your business to see those patterns that limit you and release them.
As an art student, I remember drawing a wall, and the art teacher asked us what colors the bricks were, and we all agreed the bricks were red. But the teacher disagreed. And he made us look through a whole, and we were shocked- the bricks were not red but purple. Astonishing! The color was in front of us, but we couldn’t see the reality because of our pre-existing patterns and beliefs that we saw through.
The same applies to our lives and business. By unlearning pre-conceived rules of the business, you’ll begin to see innovative ways to serve clients and create new services right in front of you. Simply notice the pattern of your preconceptions that limit you. Once you’re aware of the unwanted behavior, you can release it and operate in a different world.
In home schooling, there are many unspoken rules like no school on weekends, a 5-7 hour school day, sitting down and working on memorizing knowledge you may or may not use later on, and so on.
The same thing applies to business. Unspoken norms are to work 40 hours a week, to sit down all day (if you have that type of business), work 8 hours in a row with just a lunch break, etc.
You must unlearn these norms to create what actually works. Notice when you act from what you should do versus what is doing right for you.
So, as far as unlearning, simply notice your patterns of thinking that restrict you. Now, is the perfect time in your business to see those patterns that limit you and release them.
As an art student, I remember drawing a wall, and the art teacher asked us what colors the bricks were, and we all agreed the bricks were red. But the teacher disagreed. And he made us look through a whole, and we were shocked- the bricks were not red but purple. Astonishing! The color was in front of us, but we couldn’t see the reality because of our pre-existing patterns and beliefs that we saw through.
The same applies to our lives and business. By unlearning pre-conceived rules of the business, you’ll begin to see innovative ways to serve clients and create new services right in front of you. Simply notice the pattern of your preconceptions that limit you. Once you’re aware of the unwanted behavior, you can release it and operate in a different world.
3. Storytelling
The third key asset business leaders need today is storytelling.
Let me give you an example. For homeschooling, if I tell my son: “Do your homework!” or “Come here, and finish this lesson now!” is he inspired to take the action? Unlikely! But if I start reading a story about the lesson, he naturally stops what he’s doing and listens attentively.
Research shows that messages delivered as stories can be up to 22 times more memorable than just facts.
Why is that? Consider storytelling engages all of our five senses. Stories help the brain relax as you are whisked away into another world.
Stories are easy to digest and remember when sharing other people. This increases customer referrals. Stories create more memorable marketing messages. It evokes not just the prefrontal cortex of the brain, but the limbic system or “feeling brain.”
Let me give you an example. For homeschooling, if I tell my son: “Do your homework!” or “Come here, and finish this lesson now!” is he inspired to take the action? Unlikely! But if I start reading a story about the lesson, he naturally stops what he’s doing and listens attentively.
Research shows that messages delivered as stories can be up to 22 times more memorable than just facts.
Why is that? Consider storytelling engages all of our five senses. Stories help the brain relax as you are whisked away into another world.
Stories are easy to digest and remember when sharing other people. This increases customer referrals. Stories create more memorable marketing messages. It evokes not just the prefrontal cortex of the brain, but the limbic system or “feeling brain.”
In Conclusion
So, to sum up, the three key assets that every business needs today are:
1) Being agile. Plan with flexibility and adaptability.
2) Unlearning. Pay attention to your patterns that impede your growth
3) Storytelling. Evoke all 5 senses to create a memorable experience people can share.
By utilizing these three critical assets for today’s business leader, you’ll better manage the tsunami of chaos by learning to surf the wave. You’ll unleash your brilliance to help others unleash theirs.
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Anna S. Choi helps growing, six figure earning, over achieving, conscious business leaders–who are exhausted meeting the demands of their day–prevent burnout as they scale their impact. They want to build habits for staying happy, energized, and focused to perform at their optimum given the demands, complexities, and uncontrollable environments that suck up their energy. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com.
If you are on a path of making a better version of yourself, you can also read other blog posts that I have published HERE. Or you can contact me, and I will be glad to talk to you and discuss how we can improve your situation.
Resources:
https://www.quantifiedcommunications.com/blog/storytelling-22-times-more-memorable
1) Being agile. Plan with flexibility and adaptability.
2) Unlearning. Pay attention to your patterns that impede your growth
3) Storytelling. Evoke all 5 senses to create a memorable experience people can share.
By utilizing these three critical assets for today’s business leader, you’ll better manage the tsunami of chaos by learning to surf the wave. You’ll unleash your brilliance to help others unleash theirs.
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Anna S. Choi helps growing, six figure earning, over achieving, conscious business leaders–who are exhausted meeting the demands of their day–prevent burnout as they scale their impact. They want to build habits for staying happy, energized, and focused to perform at their optimum given the demands, complexities, and uncontrollable environments that suck up their energy. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com.
If you are on a path of making a better version of yourself, you can also read other blog posts that I have published HERE. Or you can contact me, and I will be glad to talk to you and discuss how we can improve your situation.
Resources:
https://www.quantifiedcommunications.com/blog/storytelling-22-times-more-memorable
Focus on Managing your Energy, Not Maximizing Productivity
While the world may pull you in many directions and introduce distractions, how can you cut through the noise to stay focused on taking action on what truly matters for you?
Forget time management. It’s about managing your energy — not your time.
How do you master your energy? Here’s a simple exercise to get started:
1. First, get clear on the current reality of your energy patterns.
Download a free app like Toggl where you can track activities offline from one activity to the next. At the end of each activity, your job is simply to record whatever activity you were doing. Be neutral and notice if you are judging yourself. Another free app is RescueTime. Once set up, RescueTime will track all the places you visit online in the course of your day. In my experience, the combo of Toggle and Rescuetime gives you the most accurate snapshot of the activities you’re investing your energy into.
It can take one or two days to get used to tracking each activity. Initially, you may find it too hard to enter each activity as you do it. Just try experimenting and see if you can get into a rhythm where, at the end of each activity, you click stop activity and start again — this forces you to then determine what you’ll now be focusing on. If you can persevere through the learning curve that comes with activity tracking, it’s worth the insight gained.
If you have any resistance to tracking using the apps, you can always journal your main activities throughout the day or use a Microsoft Excel sheet to track every thirty minutes with a timer. While manual tracking tends to not be as accurate to reality, any method will do as long as it fulfills the purpose of the exercise to track your activities for a set number of days.
Many of my clients expressed how, in just a few days of tracking their activities, they are more present and able to stay focused in their business and in life. See if you can do it for seven days in a row. I think you’ll be surprised even after two to three days of tracking what you’ll discover.
2. Next, reflect on your energy patterns.
What activities drained you? Which activities energized you? Put a minus sign by activities that were draining and a plus sign by activities that gave you more energy. Notice if there are any other patterns for your sleep, eating or exercise habits.
Sleep is often an area clients struggle with. They can’t sleep deeply, get enough sleep or be consistent with bedtime. Here are some bedtime exercises I recommend by author and mind-body training expert Ilchi Lee that help quiet an overworked brain:
Rollbacks: Sitting down, pull your knees into your chest and roll backward and back up. Focus on massaging your spinal cord. Make sure you have a carpet or mat to cushion your back and be gentle on your neck. Do 10-20 repetitions to warm up your body.
Toe-Tapping: Next, lie down on your back with your legs down and arms by your sides, palms up. Bring your heels together and tap your toes, rotating your entire thigh and leg as you touch your big toes. You’ll generate lots of heat in your legs, bringing all the distracting thoughts in your brain down to your core and legs.
Sleeping Tiger: On your back, raise your legs in the air, making a 90-degree angle with your knees and flex your feet toward you. Lift your arms in front of you, flexing your wrists, so your palms face the sky.
Picture the soles of your feet and palms of your hands like an energy antenna, feeling around for energy until you can find a relaxing place. With each breath, imagine breathing through the soles of your feet and palms of your hand, accumulating hot energy into your core. Hold still in this position for one to two minutes at first, focusing on slowly inhaling and exhaling like a balloon. Eventually, you can gradually build up to holding this position for 10 or even 20 minutes. All of these exercises are like taking an energy shower at the end of the day, clearing your brain of all its thoughts and to-do’s, relaxing the mind and integrating your brain with your body before bed.
3. Write down any learnings, awakenings and observations in your journal.
You’ll naturally discover insights into how easily distractible you are, how much of your day is dictated by your environment or how you have very little rest built into your day. You take it to another level when you capture what you’ve learned on paper. This helps your brain solidify what is being learned by having to articulate your thoughts, then integrate that thought with writing on a page. Now you’re meaningfully connecting your mind and body.
From your learnings, choose at least one new energy habit to experiment with, such as going to bed earlier, creating a grounding morning ritual or moving your body for one minute each time you get up to go to the bathroom. Then, track your new energy habit.
Utilize a bullet journal method of drawing shapes and coloring them in when habits are completed. Or simply write the habit out on a piece of paper, put the days of the week across the top, and mark an “x” for each day you complete the habit.
Business leaders manage what they measure and measure what matters. When you take the time to build new energy habits, you can more effectively manage your energy day to day. Focusing solely on productivity and efficiency at all costs is not as relevant in today’s times, as it fails to integrate the whole human. When you manage your energy — instead of time — you start treating yourself as a whole human being. You become more conscious, more present and focused on a more fulfilling journey.
This article was originally published in Forbes.com
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Anna S. Choi helps growing, six figure earning, over achieving, conscious business leaders–who are exhausted meeting the demands of their day–prevent burnout as they scale their impact. They want to build habits for staying happy, energized, and focused to perform at their optimum given the demands, complexities, and uncontrollable environments that suck up their energy. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com.
How to Find Peace in Chaos
What if you could find peace in any chaos?
Day to day, you might deal with many triggers to your survival brain, unleashing a host of emotions, thoughts and body sensations each minute that can feel chaotic or out of control.
What does chaos look like to you?
Is it getting stressed scrolling through social media streams on conflict-ridden current events? Getting constantly interrupted by your kids on a video call while sharing space with your partner who is also working from home? Or trying to make many decisions in the face of the unknown?
Chaos often shows up internally. Maybe it’s a dull, throbbing headache, stiff neck or tight back. Or maybe it’s your constantly running mind that never shuts up, analyzing what happened or what needs to get done the next day right before bedtime.
It may be impractical to take time off for a 10-day silent retreat or meditate for an hour, let alone 15 minutes.
Here are three quick, simple ways to find peace in chaos in any moment:
Moving Meditations
We often focus on exercising our muscles, but what about our organs?
With your legs shoulder-width apart, gently use your fists to tap two inches below your belly button, and imagine the vibration going into your core or “gut.” This is a major energy center in your body where life is birthed, and it is also known by some as the second chakra.
Close your eyes, and relax your mind. Focus your awareness where the vibration is on your energy center.
Where your mind goes, energy flows. Energy travels as light, sound or vibration. This exercise utilizes vibration to help bring your awareness back into your body’s core and center.
After 100 or so taps with your fist, now suck your belly button in to your spine, similar to a crunch standing or sitting up. Keep pumping. This is called intestinal exercise.
Now that you’ve used vibration through tapping, you’ve brought your brain’s scattered energy from outside yourself back into your body, drawing downward to your gut. Intestinal exercise helps you keep your focus centered on the gut and heat up your core.
Typically, we have hot heads and cold guts. By reversing this improper circulation using the “water up, fire down” principle, you can bring the “fire” in your head down to heat up your core, and bring the cold gut energy back up to your head for a calm, cool mind.
By exercising your intestines, you’re pumping fresh oxygen, increasing blood flow, better absorbing nutrients and processing undigested waste to achieve the proper “water up, fire down” circulation. You’ll know you have proper energy circulation if you heat up, sweat or form saliva in your mouth.
Master Your Emotions
Other exercises can really allow you to master your emotions by embracing the “bad” or unwanted emotions like anger, sadness or jealousy.
This practice takes five minutes or less and keeps your focus on observing the emotion rather than becoming or identifying as the emotion itself. There are many exercises, but here’s a sample of one exercise that has proven very powerful with my business leader clients.
Close your eyes. Scan your body from your head to your toes. Where do you notice tension, pain or unwanted emotions?
Ask yourself, “What color is the pain or unwanted emotion? What shape? What texture? What movement?”
Now imagine one of your happiest memories. Who’s around you? Where are you? What songs and smells surround you? How does it feel?
Saturate every cell in your body with the energy of that happy memory.
Now go back to the pain. Ask yourself, “What color is the pain now? What shape? What texture? What movement?”
My clients who practice this are able to shift their unwanted feeling’s shape, color, movement — sometimes disappearing the unwanted emotion altogether.
The more you master your emotions, the quicker you’ll be able to develop your emotional resilience as a leader.
Listen Within
The final exercise to access peace in chaos is listening within.
Simply close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and ask your heart, “What’s my message for today?”
Continue asking and listening. Often, the response is simple in just a few words.
You can not only talk to your heart, but any organ, or area of pain, as well.
By tapping into your own inner wisdom to listen within, you’ll get very aligned answers to decisions you need to make without having to question or regret the decision.
The more you practice, the easier your body and heart can communicate clearer messages, and the more power you’ll have to simply notice your thoughts, feelings and body sensations passing through, rather than getting lost in them.
Mastery Requires Practice
Before you can experience peace, it’s critical to bring your awareness from outside yourself into your body. Then bring that energy down from your head into your core. You’ve now aligned your body, heart, mind and soul in just a few minutes.
By focusing inward, you’ll build your inner guidance system more strongly to guide you through uncertainty. You’ll be the calm in the eye of the storm, no matter how chaotic it gets inside or out. You can choose the most aligned response each moment.
When you have the courage to practice these moments of peace of moving meditations, mastering your emotions and listening within, you will not only find peace amid chaos; you will become a source of peace in the chaos of our world.
By embodying peace in any chaos, you can access an abundant, infinite supply of energy to serve your team, your customers, your stakeholders and, most importantly, yourself.
This article was originally published on Forbes.com here.
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Anna S. Choi helps growing, six figure earning, over achieving, conscious business leaders–who are exhausted meeting the demands of their day–prevent burnout as they scale their impact. They want to build habits for staying happy, energized, and focused to perform at their optimum given the demands, complexities, and uncontrollable environments that suck up their energy. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com.
3 Secrets to Experience Time Freedom Every Day in your Business
Does vacation ever feel like more work — where you need a vacation from the vacation?
Many of my clients share how what vacation provides is more about the experience vacation represents: being relaxed, peaceful and free of pending deadlines, mounting pressures, expectations or responsibilities.
In other words, time freedom: the ability to do whatever you feel like doing, whenever you want, with no consequences.
Here are three time-tested ways you can create time freedom every day.
1. Create a morning ritual.
What’s the one thing that nourishes your soul each day?
Consider that the first half hour when you wake up is the most critical time to train your brain toward nourishing habits in that half-conscious state where your brain is transitioning from theta to alpha waves.
Pick a moving meditation or mindful exercise that will purify all the stress, toxins and tension from the inside out. Start with just a seven-day challenge to do that one thing each day, track your progress and write down what you notice and observe in your body as a result.
Avoid picking something you want to fix about yourself or that you “should” do.
If you find value at the end of seven days, I recommend continuing your journey to 14 or 21 days, whichever is more motivating. If you found no difference after seven days, pick another one thing that nourishes your soul each morning.
After 21 days, you can take a break and pick one new thing that nourishes your soul — or continue to 49 days, then up to 100 days.
Know that if you skip a day, you start over. No judgment, no attachment. Just start over. You must do it consecutively to truly experience the change and be able to effectively evaluate whether or not to continue at the end of your challenge period.
Doing so will allow you to stop reacting to your head chatter, judgments, doubts and other emotions. Instead, you’ll cultivate experiencing calm during the chaos of the unknown and unpredictable.
2. Create a midday ritual.
Lunchtime is a very easy, natural time for us to take a break to nourish ourselves. If possible, try to go outside in nature to experience being part of the greater whole.
Being outside lets us connect with ourselves on a deeper level, allowing us to remember experientially that our problems are small compared to what the entire cosmos is up to.
Here’s what I recommend as a guideline to create your most effective lunchtime ritual, one that will make a world of difference, even if your ritual is just 10 minutes long:
• If possible, leave your phone at your desk so you won’t get interrupted by incoming calls or notifications.
• Experience gratitude looking at your food. Reflect how the sun helped grow the plants, which then grew from the earth, which then got harvested from humans and packaged, shipped and delivered to your local grocery store so you could conveniently eat this meal right now in a short period of time.
• Chew slowly (ideally 30 times), and mindfully pay attention to your five senses.
• Enjoy breathing and being alive.
• In short, do nothing. Just be.
I’m continuously surprised by how 10 minutes of rejuvenation allows me to have relaxed concentration and experience time freedom for the rest of my day.
3. Create a bedtime ritual.
Pick at least one thing you can do every night that has you going to bed with a smile or connected to your heart, or that can create a really good dream. Like the first 30 minutes of your day, the last 30 minutes are equally as crucial to programming your subconscious mind.
This is your time to design your life intentionally rather than by default, watching the news, answering emails or getting work done. It’s no surprise business owners can’t shut their brains off right before bed or first thing in the morning. You are the one training your brain that way. Give yourself time to transition again from the beta wave state of your brain to lower levels to ensure your body can rest deeply and reset for the next day.
Here are some ideas for bedtime rituals:
• As a family, share “acknowledgments” for each other and yourselves. Have each family member take a turn. This practice does wonders for feeling connected and managing emotions. Be sure to also include in your acknowledgment ways of being. For example: “Son, I acknowledge you for being joyful and light, especially in the way you helped your friend stay positive at camp today.”
• Read a soul-nourishing book.
• Toe tap. This acts like an energy shower to cleanse your emotions and thoughts from the day. Simply lay on your back in bed and tap your toes together, with your pinky toes tapping the bed 100 to 500 times while taking deep breaths in and out like a balloon. Doing so allows you to shift all the hot energy accumulated in your brain down to your feet and legs from the oxygen flow and blood circulation — allowing your brain to drift into a more relaxed state.
In Summary
Creating a simple, rejuvenating ritual each morning, midday and night creates microcosms of time freedom, relaxation and peace. Ten mindful minutes three times a day will go far and have lasting effects on the quality of your day-to-day life.
The key to growing your business starts with investing in your mind, body and spirit first. Intentionally creating the vacation experience of time freedom allows you to be in flow for your day, balancing your ego-based “I am my accomplishments” self with the self that simply is perfect the way it is.
This article was originally published on Forbes.com
Pitfalls To Finding Peace Amid Chaos
As our global economy shifts from the Fourth Industrial Revolution, the age of digital information, to the Fifth Industrial Revolution, the age of transformational impact, you and your business must evolve your consciousness within to stay competitive and relevant in the marketplace.
I’ve noticed in my work with growth-minded, conscious entrepreneurs, however, that two major pitfalls become barriers to looking deeper within.
You cannot find peace amid chaos until you avoid the pitfalls of “being busy.”
Pitfall 1: The ‘hustle and grind’ way of life has become the norm.
The hustle-and-grind culture can often be thought of as inevitable (or very hard to overcome) to be able to meet the demands of the customer, stay competitive and grow. But does it have to be?
As a conscious business leader, you might know you need to work smarter instead of harder and longer. Yet are you in reality? If you’re like most, you might still find yourself running the endless “rat race” or the treadmill of long work hours, as a cog in our global economy, unable to escape.
You might believe that growth must come at a cost to your health, family time, social life or something else. So you give up trying to “have it all” and accept sacrificing parts of your life, while continuing to struggle in some mythical work-life balance concept. Even vacations become stressful from having to catch up when you return.
However, you always have a choice to opt out of the hustle-and-grind culture. Once you do, you must face yourself.
You may be tempted to fall into old habits watching others around you “succeed,” and you must trust in yourself that it’s possible to have sustainable spiritual and financial growth by slowing down.
Only after you embrace the chaos and messiness, have the courage to slow down and trust in the unknown can you start to practice finding peace amid chaos by simply being with your thoughts, emotions and body sensations.
Pitfall 2: You’re unclear what being present means.
When I ask clients “What does personal time look like?” they list off basic everyday activities like showering, exercise or maybe traveling to visit family. I often have to ask again, “Besides daily activities, imagine you’re not worried about anyone or anything else, and there are no deadlines or nothing to make happen. Then what would you love to do?”
I get a blank stare.
I continue pressing. “What nourishes your soul?”
At this point, clients share some long-lost hobbies they never have time for. Then I get a mountain of reasons why they can’t justify doing those things they love. No staff, no time, having to serve clients or be out of business, etc.
Are you creating time to be present in your life as opposed to being in many places at once, reacting to life’s many curveballs, always thinking about the next thing or worrying about what happened?
What does being present feel like for you? What would you be doing or not doing? What body sensations or feelings come to mind?
What if you put your own nourishment first on your to-do list? Then had a trusted advisor or colleague who can hold you accountable to making sure nourishing your soul is number one?
Crisis As Opportunity
There’s an opportunity when a crisis hits, whether it’s a global pandemic, losing your staff, the loss of a loved one or getting diagnosed with a disease. It wakes you up to what matters in life. It forces you to reach within and face your inner turmoil.
Crisis is the perfect opportunity for transformative growth — to test yourself, face your fears and experience being calm in the storms around you. Crisis is the time to practice peace whether through morning rituals, moving meditations or mastering your mood.
Until you go beyond knowing crisis is an opportunity as an intellectual concept to experiencing or feeling crisis as the one and only opportunity for transformative growth, no amount of meditation or doing more actions will make the difference.
In Summary
Don’t be like the boiling frog during uncertainty, where, slowly over time, you find yourself still constantly working, having no time to think about nourishing your soul. Working on top of a busy, distracted, exhausted soul now only deepens that habit post-crisis.
The number one skill you need to master is managing your energy from the inside out to find peace amid chaos. It’s during a crisis that you can develop the courage to face the layers of emotions, previously ignored, now bubbling up.
By learning to navigate your inner world effectively, you’ll strengthen your innate power of resilience, embodying being a peaceful leader amid the chaos. You’ll learn how to harness the power of being present in the now, trust yourself to navigate through uncertainty and experience being peaceful amid chaos.
This article was originally published on Forbes.com here.
Lessons Learned from Black Lives Matter & Business
Why I love working with conscious entrepreneurs is because they are willing to be uncomfortable, take risks, fail, find their voice, and innovate ways to impact their communities and beyond.
As conscious entrepreneurs, you have an opportunity here to demonstrate real leadership in the face of the chaos.
The last two weeks I’ve been deep diving into learning about the Black Lives Matter movement. Being silent in my business was not a message I was willing to convey.
The entrepreneur traits of being willing to be uncomfortable, take risks, fail, and find their voice are what’s needed to lead the way in supporting the Black Lives Matters Movement.
Here are 4 entrepreneurial principles you can use to support #BlackLivesMatter:
1. Commit to taking a stand.
What are you committed to? What’s your why? How does engaging with the Black Lives Matter movement align with your values in your life and business?
For me, my mission is to empower the next generation of leaders to cause a tipping point in humanity’s consciousness. I cannot do that if such a large majority of humans in my country and neighborhoods are getting shot because the color of their skin. I also cannot do that if there are scared folks committing the acts of violence. A change of consciousness must first happen.
I committed to showing support and taking a stand (literally!) by attending a peaceful protest (outdoors with masks staying 6 feet apart).
I was petrified to go out for many reasons: Would it be dangerous for my son? Would there be too many people not adhering to 6 feet apart? How would I be judged?
Feeling the fear and going anyway, I came away empowered in unity with mostly white people showing support for black lives and native lives. It was moving, encouraging, and what had me find courage to continue engaging to the next step.
2. Listen to who you’re serving.
For me, this was understanding the world of African Americans sharing their stories of what it’s like to be black in America. For others, it might be helping facilitate conversations with privileged people who feel shame and are stuck.
Rather then get stuck in the echo chamber of my head of shame and guilt for not knowing, not having taken action earlier, or defending myself–I started learning and listening to those most impacted.
I came across Cory Buckner, a black medic and former cop in Kentucky who had a viral post (166,000 shares!) and after looking him up was inspired by his wisdom when I white friend asked “What can we do about this?” and he simply responded, “Listen to listen, not listen to respond.”
Inspired by this simple yet powerful act to listen, I created this post Listening is our most powerful access to peace highlighting his voice.
I researched how black people are dealing with this, reading news articles of a black man going behind the line of armed police giving out hugs. Or how when a white cop got separated out from this group, a group of black men protected him from the mob just because it was the right thing to do.
This led me to want to engage more actively.
3. Implement the learning.
I needed to orient where I was in the big picture of racism.
So I took a white privilege checklist to find out (I’m Asian American yet often feel white growing up in all white communities). My husband is a white man and my son is mixed. I scored a 6/20 points, my husband 20/20 and my son 18/20.
I then took an overall privilege test (covering race, gender, religious freedom, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation) which scored higher at 51/100, my husband at 87/100. This provided me a baseline to realize what privilege I do have that I can use to support the Black Lives Matters Movement.
Now we are listening to these 3-5 minute poignant, moving stories by Amber Ruffin, Comedian, Actress, Writer and the first African American woman to write for the Seth Meyers late night show. So enlightening. Now our family watches them each night (after vetting out age appropriate stories for my son) and share learnings at the end.
Learnings thus far
*Being silent on the matter communicates “institutionalized racism is ok” and certain lives don’t matter
*I am overall privileged and can use that for good by simply listening to listen, not listening to respond
*This is another historical moment in history distinct from the 1960’s protests where what used to be ok and ignore no longer is ok or being ignored, and real change is actually happening as long as the momentum of what’s happening (murders of black people for being black who often are innocent bystanders, in their own homes being treated as if they are thugs, etc.)
4. Go public sharing what you’ve learned.
You have an opportunity to find your voice by sharing your learnings.
After the peaceful protest, I felt good as a mother and as a community member. But then went through another roller coaster of emotions of whether to post about it.
I asked permission to post the picture from my fellow conscious entrepreneurs who attended the protest, crafted the post, then clicked “publish.”
I conquered my fears that the post might be ridiculed, torn apart, or trolled and posted it anyway with love. The response was overwhelming in support.
Feeling more confident, I then posted publicly on the privilege checklist findings (another moment of truth in being out there) knowing it could trigger folks. Instead, I conquered another fear head one resulting in the most delightful dialogue ensue thereafter on race that opened up many more hearts and minds.
I’ve discovered my part in the black lives matter movement: to “listen just to listen, not listen to respond” and to foster real dialogue where all voices can be heard with love and respect.
Summary
As a conscious entrepreneur, you can integrate business principles to make a difference in the Black Lives Matter movement.
Commit and take the leap. Do your research by listening and asking questions to the needs of those impacted, implement your learnings, then go public sharing what you’ve learned.
I’ve been moved by fellow entrepreneurs the last two weeks who have been willing to take consistent action with their values around Black Lives Matters.
I hope you will join me in standing publicly for your values, respecting those who believe otherwise, and continuing to demonstrate support for the Black Lives Matter movement.
Together, we can elevate humanity’s consciousness one conversation at a time.
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Anna S. Choi, Conscious Business Coach, empowers the next generation of global leaders to focus their energy and find peace in chaos. By age 25, Anna was able to triple her net income and gross six figures but was totally burned out. Now she helps business leaders grow in flow, igniting a Presence Movement to elevate humanity’s consciousness. If you’re interested in gaining focus, clarity, accountability in a like-minded community, learn more at www.annasunchoi.com
Blackout Tuesday and Black Lives Matter
In honor of Blackout Tuesday and Black Lives Matter, I took my 8 year old son to the protest in our small town of Poulsbo, population 10,000. We had over 1000 people turn out to support, it remained peaceful, and yes, everyone wore masks outside standing 6 feet apart.
Decided to go public and share our experience. Here’s an excerpt of the Facebook post:
Teaching my 8 year old son the lessons on race this week. He is mixed, so people won’t question him as much not knowing what to ask.
How Asians are a privileged minority race.
How white privilege looks even though he’s mixed. Like how he can get a bandaid that matches his skin. Or find a movie where the lead person looks like him versus a supporting role.
Or not have to worry about representing a whole race by your individual actions.
Or not have to overcome predetermined narratives (negative or positive) that come with your race when having a conversation.
How it’s hard for his dad who’s a white male to even know what he doesn’t know. That we are all doing our best.
That if he were a little black boy, I’d have to give him a totally different upbringing to protect him from racism that he will likely never be forced to deal with. Like people clutching their bags or getting a feared look when you just walk down the street.
I once was going to hire a black man who had an extraordinary commitment to building the social enterprise system that I met at a national conference, had won several grants and demonstrated major leadership in the community in the face of being formerly incarcerated (wrongfully and an over the top prison sentence).
All he did was zen out in prison learning all he could to be a better person making the most of it.
The day we were supposed to do a phone interview he texts to cancel. I call to find out that his cousin just got shot in his neighborhood. Under 30 years old.
I said go be with your family…and it was then that I realized my privilege in not having to deal with major trauma all the time around you to get ahead in life.
As my mexican friend said, “Imagine 2 pools to swim in. One is chlorinated, clean, and easy to swim in. The other is not just dirty, but filled with knives, junk, crap. Try swimming in that. That pool is the pool we didn’t get a choice to swim in that every day we must swim in to thrive in life.”
Here’s what I have done as a parent to educate my son.
- I share stories. I try and tell new narratives that are from the minority view.
- I buy children’s books that have black protagonist or all black characters. Or all natives. Or all Latino. Or all asian.
- I point out inherent racism in old cartoon strips by how black people were depicted in cartoons that don’t flatter.
- I have my son watch movies like Hidden Figures to understand what it was like for middle class black families working as NASA engineers and scientists to not only have to run a mile to go to the colored bathrooms, but be thrown out the library to learn or petition to court to simply get a raise because the color of their skin.
- I take him to Peaceful protests to see how much of the community supports that black lives matter– that all lives matter–and engage in uncomfortable dialogue of the way the world is in this moment, and what the world can be.
- I show him all the victories of humanity uniting in the wake of the black lives matter movement…how the protests are making a difference this time and aren’t just another passing phase that disappears into institutionalized racism once again.
So he has hope for what is also happening now in speaking out.
So he stays informed and acts versus stay silent.
So we both learn and listen to an unheard narrative functioning as one human race.
#LessonsForPeace
#BlackLivesMatter
#BlackoutTuesday
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Anna S. Choi, Conscious Business Coach, empowers the next generation of global leaders to focus their energy and find peace in chaos. By age 25, Anna was able to triple her net income and gross six figures but was totally burned out. Now she helps business leaders grow in flow, igniting a Presence Movement to elevate humanity’s consciousness. If you’re interested in gaining focus, clarity, accountability in a like-minded community, learn more at www.annasunchoi.com
Business Leadership: Facing Challenges, Decision Making, and Being Calm Amid the Chaos
I was recently asked by Forbes to give feedback on several questions readers are asking as part of the Forbes Coach’s Council.
these will be published, here are my thoughts on the most asked questions today.
Q: What’s the first step you recommend business leaders take when faced with a challenge they’ve never experienced before? Why is this key to tackling this new issue?
A: Ground yourself first.
First and foremost, breathe. By taking a deep breath in and out, you become more present to handle challenges coming your way rather than react to circumstances. The only way a leader will be able to effectively lead is when you embody presence, being like the eye of the storm, calm in the midst of chaos.
Q: Indecision has no place in a successful business, so it’s key for business leaders to hone their decision-making skills. What’s one specific strategy leaders can use to enhance their decision-making skills, and why is it effective?
Answer: Check with Your 3 Inner Advisors
When faced with a decision, check with 3 inner advisors, your intuition or gut, logic, and fear. If you get a no from gut or logic, do not move forward. If you get a yes from your intuition, a yes from logic, and a loud no from fear, that means saying yes to that decision will be a hard transformation and in the right direction. That is where you’ll develop your true long term trust in the unknown.
Q: What is the key to keeping your branding tone-appropriate during a crisis?
Answer: Stop selling, start servicing
First, take care of your existing customers asking them what they need now. For new customers, market research what new problems they have today. Stop selling old solutions for today’s times. Be sensitive to customer’s being less willing to spend but offering lower level pricing or payment plans. Then offer a ton of value for free, providing resources, truly being of service during this crisis.
Q: How would you advise business leaders to project calmness, bravery and empathy during a crisis?
Answer: Self Care is Top Priority
The only way you’ll have an overflow of energy reserves to lead your calmly is if your nurture your well being first. This looks like double downing on your well-being practices such as a morning and evening rituals. Ensure the first thing you do each morning and lat thing before bed nourishes and purifies all the stress and toxins accumulated in your body like going into nature, breathing, etc.
Q: In difficult times, how might you recommend businesses get creative about finding new revenue streams to diversify their cash flow?
Answer: Ask the Market
Interview, poll, market research existing customers and clients what are their challenges and don’t assume without asking. Be high touch and call them directly versus mass emailing them. For the vast majority of businesses, do NOT try selling yesterday’s problems and solutions for today–it won’t apply. Be open to pivoting to a new offering aligned with where you’re headed post crisis.
Would love to hear from you on whether this made a difference for you! Please comment below.
#inthistogether
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Anna S. Choi, Conscious Business Coach, empowers the next generation of global business leaders to focus their energy, create more time freedom, and find peace amid chaos. She’s igniting a Presence Movement of quadruple bottom line based companies who care about people, planet, profit, and presence.
As a broke art student with no money, connections, or experience, she built and sold her first business, InsideOut Investing, a socially responsible financial planning practice, tripling her net income and grossing six figures by age 25 but was burned out and looked for ways to grow with ease and flow. A decade later, Anna helps her clients unleash their business brilliance, by replenishing and refocusing their energy, scaling their community impact.
Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com
3 Ways to Be Happy Working Remote from Home
With the global pandemic shutting down schools, I suddenly found myself with an 8 year old trying to now home school and run my full time business, while dealing with the emotional disappointments of a cancelled vacation to show my son the Grand Canyon and visit Grandparents in Arizona, TEDx cancelling their live event to 6000 viewers for which I was selected (a dream come true), and cancelling an event I spent 2 months promoting and was projected to make income for the next few months. Not to mention, after spending a quarter honing down on various marketing strategies to focus, I decided to double down on live speaking engagements, hiring a coach for several thousands to train me on selling high ticket programs from the front of the stage–which, well, wasn’t exactly going to happen now. Yes, I freaked out. Felt loss and disappointment. Wasn’t clear how or whether to pivot because frankly, virtual webinars just aren’t the same kind of impact as speaking to a room of real people.
On the flip side, my coaching business has always been 100% virtual, my remote team members were cool with lowering hours, going project by project for commissions, and I was able to cut down to a very lean overhead.
As a mom having worked full time from home the last 6 years while traveling 9 weeks out of the year for business and personal adventures to Tibet, Nepal, and India–and now with a husband sharing “office space,” I definitely honed my time and project management know how.
I realized that I’ve weathered the 2008 recession in my first business as a financial advisor and coming out strong to sell my business for double it’s worth gave me courage this too shall pass.
The good news is we are all in this together. Without further ado.
Here are 3 Ways to Be Happy Working Remote from Home to help you create more rhythm and flow at home, where you will learn how to utilize health, home environment, and home schooling to maximize your daily energetic flow while staying safe and healthy serving your clients and those you love.
Please comment below with any take-aways or learnings.
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Anna S. Choi, Conscious Business Coach, empowers the next generation of global business leaders to focus their energy, create more time freedom, and find peace amid chaos. She’s igniting a Presence Movement of quadruple bottom line based companies who care about people, planet, profit, and presence.
As a broke art student with no money, connections, or experience, she built and sold her first business, InsideOut Investing, a socially responsible financial planning practice, tripling her net income and grossing six figures by age 25 but was burned out and looked for ways to grow with ease and flow. A decade later, Anna helps her clients unleash their business brilliance, by replenishing and refocusing their energy, scaling their community impact. Learn more at www.annasunchoi.com
